I often say each one of us are having our own unique human life experience. However, all too often, we deny ourselves the opportunity to experience something magical or even limit ourselves based on the fear of being judged. What will people think? How will people perceive me? Will they like me? Is this good or bad, right or wrong?
We may also withhold expressing how we feel because we fear being criticized or judged for saying too much or not enough. To me, it feels extremely limiting to get caught up in what other people think, yet I am human, too, so those thoughts do arise.
As always, I like to clarify what I am referring to. According to Merriam-Webster.com., judgment is defined as “the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing; the capacity for judging; a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion.” Criticism is defined as “the act of criticizing usually unfavorably; a critical observation or remark.”
Words are power. They have the ability to hurt or to heal. I’m “old school” in that I believe if you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all as well as don’t give your opinion unless it is asked for.
Recent experiences and interactions prompted me to write this blog. I do my best to be an observer and even become conscious of when I am being a bit “judgy,” whether it is of myself or others. After packing my suitcase for a trip, I opted to weigh it to make sure that I was within airline weight limits. I weighed myself, so that I could weigh again holding the suitcase. The numbers on the scale reflected a number much higher than I desired them to be. I immediately began judging myself based on those numbers. Realizing the self-talk was ridiculous, I stopped berating myself and recognized I could do something to reduce the number it reflected or continue to be in a place of judgment.
After speaking recently at Unity of Fayetteville, I had two separate people approach me after the service saying they wished I had delivered a message that was less structured and more from the heart. Prior to their comments and even after, I had several people convey to me that they loved the message, and it touched them. I recognize people have their own perspective, and I can’t please everyone most of the time.
With that said, do your best to live your life fully with no regret. Speak from the heart. Be present in the moment. Stop judging (being critical) of yourself and those around you. Surrender to the sweetness of life. Live your life and let others live theirs. Everyone is experiencing their own journey into consciousness.
About the Author
Shelly Wilson is an author, intuitive medium and conscious creator who is passionate about helping people wake up to their greatness. She supports others as they navigate their own journey into consciousness to experience aliveness.