Journey without Judgment

Journey without Judgment

I often say each one of us are having our own unique human life experience. However, all too often, we deny ourselves the opportunity to experience something magical or even limit ourselves based on the fear of being judged. What will people think? How will people perceive me? Will they like me? Is this good or bad, right or wrong?

We may also withhold expressing how we feel because we fear being criticized or judged for saying too much or not enough. To me, it feels extremely limiting to get caught up in what other people think, yet I am human, too, so those thoughts do arise.

As always, I like to clarify what I am referring to. According to Merriam-Webster.com., judgment is defined as “the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing; the capacity for judging; a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion.” Criticism is defined as “the act of criticizing usually unfavorably; a critical observation or remark.”

Words are power. They have the ability to hurt or to heal. I’m “old school” in that I believe if you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all as well as don’t give your opinion unless it is asked for.

Recent experiences and interactions prompted me to write this blog. I do my best to be an observer and even become conscious of when I am being a bit “judgy,” whether it is of myself or others. After packing my suitcase for a trip, I opted to weigh it to make sure that I was within airline weight limits. I weighed myself, so that I could weigh again holding the suitcase. The numbers on the scale reflected a number much higher than I desired them to be. I immediately began judging myself based on those numbers. Realizing the self-talk was ridiculous, I stopped berating myself and recognized I could do something to reduce the number it reflected or continue to be in a place of judgment.

After speaking recently at Unity of Fayetteville, I had two separate people approach me after the service saying they wished I had delivered a message that was less structured and more from the heart. Prior to their comments and even after, I had several people convey to me that they loved the message, and it touched them. I recognize people have their own perspective, and I can’t please everyone most of the time.

With that said, do your best to live your life fully with no regret. Speak from the heart. Be present in the moment. Stop judging (being critical) of yourself and those around you. Surrender to the sweetness of life. Live your life and let others live theirs. Everyone is experiencing their own journey into consciousness.

About the Author
Shelly Wilson is an author, intuitive medium and conscious creator who is passionate about helping people wake up to their greatness. She supports others as they navigate their own journey into consciousness to experience aliveness.
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Journey with Compassion for Self

Journey with Compassion for Self

Compassion is defined as a strong feeling of empathy and perhaps even sympathy and sadness for other people’s suffering along with a desire to help.

My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. ~ Maya Angelou

As I often state, being human can be “tough” sometimes! This journey into consciousness reminds us of the need to have compassion for ourselves and those around us. During the January 21 breathwork session at H2Oasis Float Center & Tea House (read more about my experiences on the blog titled Journey with Breathwork), a friend and fellow attendee received this message from Spirit, “Many times, we are all too hard on ourselves. We are strong enough to endure this human life experience, and we need to be reminded of this periodically. It is essential that we have as much compassion for ourselves as we so often extend to others. In other words, we need to be easier on ourselves and much kinder.”

Heart-centered living involves practicing self-love, which is compassion for self. When we choose to accept and practice heart-centered living, we understand that we are the central point of creation of our personal reality – we are the center of our Universe.

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. ~ Dalai Lama

Until we are able to fully understand love, both personally and experientially, which includes learning to love ourselves, we are of little value to those around us. Of course, this has nothing to do with selfishness, but with being awake and aware enough to know that we can only give what we are and what we have. Therefore, if we do not have love within us and for ourselves, how can we give love, kindness, respect or compassion to others?

About the Author
Shelly Wilson is an author, intuitive medium and conscious creator who is passionate about helping people wake up to their greatness. She supports others as they navigate their own journey into consciousness to experience aliveness.
http://shellyrwilson.com
http://www.facebook.com/intuitivemediumshelly
http://www.facebook.com/journeyintoconsciousness