Journey without Judgment

Journey without Judgment

I often say each one of us are having our own unique human life experience. However, all too often, we deny ourselves the opportunity to experience something magical or even limit ourselves based on the fear of being judged. What will people think? How will people perceive me? Will they like me? Is this good or bad, right or wrong?

We may also withhold expressing how we feel because we fear being criticized or judged for saying too much or not enough. To me, it feels extremely limiting to get caught up in what other people think, yet I am human, too, so those thoughts do arise.

As always, I like to clarify what I am referring to. According to, judgment is defined as “the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing; the capacity for judging; a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion.” Criticism is defined as “the act of criticizing usually unfavorably; a critical observation or remark.”

Words are power. They have the ability to hurt or to heal. I’m “old school” in that I believe if you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all as well as don’t give your opinion unless it is asked for.

Recent experiences and interactions prompted me to write this blog. I do my best to be an observer and even become conscious of when I am being a bit “judgy,” whether it is of myself or others. After packing my suitcase for a trip, I opted to weigh it to make sure that I was within airline weight limits. I weighed myself, so that I could weigh again holding the suitcase. The numbers on the scale reflected a number much higher than I desired them to be. I immediately began judging myself based on those numbers. Realizing the self-talk was ridiculous, I stopped berating myself and recognized I could do something to reduce the number it reflected or continue to be in a place of judgment.

After speaking recently at Unity of Fayetteville, I had two separate people approach me after the service saying they wished I had delivered a message that was less structured and more from the heart. Prior to their comments and even after, I had several people convey to me that they loved the message, and it touched them. I recognize people have their own perspective, and I can’t please everyone most of the time.

With that said, do your best to live your life fully with no regret. Speak from the heart. Be present in the moment. Stop judging (being critical) of yourself and those around you. Surrender to the sweetness of life. Live your life and let others live theirs. Everyone is experiencing their own journey into consciousness.

About the Author
Shelly Wilson is an author, intuitive medium and conscious creator who is passionate about helping people wake up to their greatness. She supports others as they navigate their own journey into consciousness to experience aliveness.


Journey with Empowerment

Journey with Empowerment

As an Intuitive Medium, Reiki Master and Spiritual Growth Coach, my purpose is to assist others on their journey into consciousness by empowering them to recognize and acknowledge the guidance they are receiving for themselves. Our solar plexus chakra is the energetic center of our knowingness, also referred to as our “gut instinct.” As we tune into this power center, we become more empowered to stand in our power and to feel safe in shining our Light bright.


What does standing in your power mean?
When you allow yourself to be who you really are with all people all of the time, you are exhibiting the courage and strength to be seen and heard. I refer to this courage as standing in your power. This involves communicating your needs and desires to others as well as to yourself. Standing in your power simply means “owning” what you believe to be true and then speaking your truth. Emanating this power in your words and actions requires no thought when you become accustomed to doing so.

Throughout your life, some people may try to control you or the choices you are making. When you allow this to happen, you are either consciously or subconsciously giving your power away to another. Do you recognize when this happens? How does it make you feel?

Any time a pattern or experience repeats itself, it is important to acknowledge it and then allow yourself to see things from a Higher perspective. These experiences will continue to repeat themselves until you recognize the lesson the experience is offering. You may ask – What am I supposed to learn from this experience. Why do I feel this way? 

8 Steps to Become Empowered

  1. Ground and center your energy while consciously bringing your energy to this present moment. You are in the flow of manifestation when you are living in the here and now rather than dwelling in the past or planning the future.
  2. Have the courage to be who you are always and in all ways. There is no need to carry the energy of what others may think or say about you. Each one of us is having our own human life experience. Choose to honor your experience as well as everyone else’s experience.
  3. Say what you mean to say. When you speak your truth, you will recognize the importance of hearing the truth from others. Be mindful when communicating and discern if you are coming from a place of love or fear/lack. Communicate your needs and desires to yourself and to others. Don’t assume that everyone can read your mind – you have to speak up. 
  4. Listen to what your body is telling you. Pay attention to the sensations that you feel physically. As you heighten your awareness and tune in, you will be accustomed to recognizing this communication.
  5. Surrender and release to Spirit/the Universe anything you cannot control. The five things you can actually control are your own thoughts, words, actions, emotions and reactions.
  6. Choose to be conscious of the energy you are emitting. Are you sending mixed signals to the Universe with your thoughts/words and actions? When you align your thoughts, words and actions with your beliefs, you are walking your talk and talking your walk.
  7. Trust the guidance you are receiving. You may not understand the how, when, why, what, where aspects, but it is important to acknowledge the guidance you are receiving and express your gratitude for receiving it.
  8. Be patient with your progress. Cease the mind chatter and negative self-talk. Honor yourself and what you are feeling.

About Shelly
Intuitive Medium, Reiki Master and Spiritual Growth Coach Shelly Wilson would love to assist you on your spiritual journey. With respect, truth, integrity and love, Shelly honors your free will and recognizes that you are co-creating your reality with the Universe. She offers private readings, intuitive coaching, Reiki sessions, and teaches workshops. Shelly’s books, 28 Days to a New YOU, Connect to the YOU Within and Journey into Consciousness, are available in paperback and eBook.

Journey with Trust

TrustOur journey into consciousness involves a lot of trust. Trust that we are having the experiences we are intended to have for this incarnation. Trust that everything is happening how and when (and if) it is supposed to.

The Universe does not operate on human’s linear time with clocks and calendars; it operates on Divine time. The lower vibrational emotions of fear and worry serve no purpose other than creating more fear and worry. They go hand and hand inhibiting and creating blockages in our life. Fear tends to suppress living because we avoid taking “risks” in life. We are fearful of the outcome or what others may think of us, so we avoid taking the perceived “risk” altogether. As I frequently state, I feel like it is important for each one of us to honor all of the emotions we are feeling. There is no need to view the lower vibrational emotions as “bad” or negative. Rather, we should simply be aware of them and how they restrict our flow of manifestation.

As we continue to grow and evolve, we will attain a greater understanding of seeing every experience as an opportunity for learning and growth.  Everything is happening exactly as it is supposed to in Divine time; we simply have to trust in the process.

Intuitive Medium, Reiki Master and Spiritual Teacher Shelly Wilson would love to assist you on your spiritual journey. With respect, truth, integrity and love, Shelly honors your free will and recognizes that you are co-creating your reality with the Universe. She offers private readings, intuitive coaching, Reiki sessions, and teaches workshops. Shelly’s books, 28 Days to a New YOU, Connect to the YOU Within and Journey into Consciousness, are now available in paperback and all electronic formats. Her courses, Stop Existing and Start Living! and Opening Your Heart to Love are available through the DailyOM. In addition, she is the host of The Shelly Wilson Show on Blog Talk Radio, which airs live each Wednesday at 2:00 pm CST.

Journey into Consciousness: One Woman’s Story of Spiritual Awakening with Tools to Assist You on Your Journey is available as an eBook and in paperback.